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Properly used.
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For the taking…..
(via blackleatherbelt)
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Yea….THIS is what I like.
(via blackleatherbelt)
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Her entire body screams: USE ME!
(via blackleatherbelt)
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Waiting for me…senses heightened in anticipation
(via blackleatherbelt)
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pleasant side of the road stop….
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Ladies: I hope that you are not afraid to wear lingerie just because you’re not a size 6. Guys love their gals in something sexy- even larger gals
If your night wardrobe contains more cotton and flannel than silk and satin…. seriously? Sizzle it up with your mate. If you’ve got a few extra pounds, there are of course better choices than others- but if you’re in doubt…ask HIM! Take him to your local boutique (that is one shopping trip he won’t turn down). Try some on. If a guy says this outfit looks better than that- despite what you may think….he’s gonna be honest on this one. Trust me.
After enjoying some crazy passion that night, you can always throw on that comfy flannel Hello-Kitty thing on afterwards.
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Ladies: Do you masturbate?
If you don’t- I’ll tell you why: you were taught not to. And that is wrong. I could list studies all day long with the psychological benefits to masturbation, but I won’t. What I will tell you is that there is no better way to know your body, know your mind, than self-pleasure. Don’t believe me? Ask any woman who does.
There is no shame, no stigma to a woman masturbating. Even if you’re in a relationship where you have sex, learn to masturbate anyway! I’m willing to bet (9 out of 10 times) if you don’t (or haven’t) masturbated- you probably have difficulty reaching orgasm- if you do at all. No one knows better than you, as to what feels good. Where, when, how hard, how fast: all part of the orgasm equation. These are the questions to be explored, then communicated to your lover. If you don’t have the answers- is he just supposed to ‘play the lottery’ and hope he stumbles upon what makes you go “ohgodohgodohgodohgod!”?? Maybe you smirk and say that sounds like the phony moans of a porn star- but remember this: those moans and screams ARE REAL for many women! Of course hearing a woman in the throws of ecstasy is a great turn on for guys- but the fact that it based in reality is why they do it in the movies. Why not experience that for yourself?
Whether you are currently alone or with someone- begin exploring. You can do this with or without him. There’s no reason to be afraid to get ‘caught’- in fact, a majority of men are turned on simply thinking about their significant other masturbating. With that in mind- you’re more likely to end up with the greatest lovemaking you’ve had in years than you are to be embarrassed by his reaction. When Marilyn started to explore herself (we had been already married almost 10 years), she began by herself, and found she enjoyed the stimulation so much, she was soon sharing with me what she learned during our foreplay. I imagine it took a lot of courage on her part to do that in front of me the first time, but WOW, was it worth it! As I watched, learning what she liked, and how she did it, I was later able to take her from dry to not only being wet- but moaning and thrusting as well in minutes.
For some women, being able to self-pleasure during intercourse allows them faster, and more orgasms than their partners. Ladies, how would you like THAT for payback- orgasming, not only longer and harder, but before he does? An example would be when doggystyling, while your partner is thrusting from behind, creating that unique sensation (compared to other positions), you can reach down with one hand, stimulating your clitoris- and reaching that orgasm faster and better than with vaginal stimulation alone.
Have fun and don’t forget to share your new found knowledge!!
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Fantasies. We all have them. Men and women. Why not explore them? Usually fantasies don’t get explored simply because there’s no dialog- no communication between partners. Often it’s due to social fears- maybe you might think your partner might laugh. They might say no. You were raised that it was ‘taboo’.
Sometimes we need to think how we approach our (your)sexuality. Communication can not be stressed enough- no matter which side of the discussion you fall on. Explain why you like your fantasy if you can. Explain why you don’t like your partner’s fantasy. Talk, but also think. Is your reason for not wanting to give your partner his/her fantasy real, or is it because you’ve never done that- or were you taught that it was taboo, or not for ‘nice girls’? Could it really hurt to try? Unless it’s illegal, or dangerous- we need to at least give our partner’s fantasy a legitimate chance through thought and conversation.
Check out the other photo blogs with some fantasy ideas for each sex- based on real, popular fantasies for both men and women. Try them one at a time…let me know if you’ve got some ideas I might add. Let me know if you’ve succeeded in fulfilling all of the ones listed!
Not all fantasies (or fetishes) are for everyone. Not everyone responds positively to the idea of wearing a leather hood, or a threesome. But then, if you never ask…
Let me make a suggestion for those with ‘darker’ fantasies- work your partner up to them. Start with some easy fantasies (they don’t even have to be your fantasy). Start with a blindfold. Next time, heavy spanking. After that, hot wax from a candle. It doesn’t really matter what these stepped up fantasies are- but the key is to respond positively to your partner fulfilling your fantasy. It’s a simple encouragement technique. (it doesn’t hurt to fulfill a fantasy or two of your partner along the way) Eventually you’ll either work your way to your partner’s hard limit- or you’ll reach your dark fantasy…either way- you’ll have fun along the way!
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Both of you: We rely on our sense of touch so much during lovemaking that sometimes we forget the power of our other senses. No doubt that smell, taste, and sight also play a role, but none of those is as powerful as sound. It stimulates the brain in directions the other senses hadn’t even thought of…
This can be a difficult, (well-not so much difficult as awkward) subject to broach. It certainly doesn’t add to the romance at hand- asking what your partner does or doesn’t like to hear during foreplay and/or sex. However- go ahead and ‘bite the bullet’ on being a little awkward, because once that information is gained, you have a powerful, powerful tool at your disposal. While I wouldn’t recommend asking a first-time partner if she likes to talk dirty- I would certainly suggest those a little more familiar with each other discuss it.
I would suggest a similar approach:
You (male or female): Honey, I read that sometimes talking dirty can increase sexual pleasure. Is that something you like or don’t like?
There are several possible responses:
Possible response #1- Yea! I’d love to try that
Possible response #2- No, it doesn’t really do anything for me
Possible response #3- I’ve never really thought about it… what do you want to do?
The next thing to do is tell your partner what you would like. Don’t, don’t, don’t change your answer to match what you think they want to hear. Be open and honest. It’s about pleasing each other, even if that means trying something new or outside your comfort zone once in a while. Talk about limits- are there words or phrases that are off limits? What about words or phrases that turn you on?
Most people have different moods- especially women (no offense!). Sometimes women want it soft and gentle, and the next night they might want you to try and break the bed.
What I would suggest is a ‘code’ word or phrase to let your partner know what your in the mood for that evening. Take your cues, and act accordingly. Something like this:
Her: “Thanks for remembering to pick up some bread on your way home. *whispers* Take me to heaven?”
He know knows that saying “Take me to heaven” means she would like a slow, sensual night- and to keep the dirty talk out.
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Her: “Thanks honey for remembering to pick up the bread on your way home tonight. *whispers* Rock my world?”
He knows that she’s interested in being a little more physical tonight- being dominated to the extent you’ve hopefully discovered as the right amount.
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Her: “Thanks honey for remembering to pick up the bread on your way home tonight. *whispers* What’s your desire tonight, baby?”
Him: (realizing she’s open to what he would like) “I’d like my dirty girl tonight”
Her: (takes his hand and has him grab her hair) “Ooooh! You want to eat my pussy first, or shall I be your little whore and suck your cock?!” (He now knows through the cues that she’s game, and is ok with it being a little rougher tonight)
It can be a bit of role playing, but the key is communicating- and armed with the knowledge of what you both are comfortable with (which can change over time), and what you both like- what you say, and how you say it can speak volumes in a matter of seconds, and lead to a fulfilling night where neither party misses out on what they really wanted.
Communication! :)
Extra: Don’t think that ‘dirty talk’ has to be either loud or vulgar. A whispered phrase that you wouldn’t say in everyday conversation can send a shiver of ecstasy down your partners spine. Guys: Try whispering what you are going to do to her- be it slow and gentle or fast and rough. Include some other senses for her to think about (women are driven more by other senses than men), like (whispering) “...and then I’m going to unbutton your blouse from behind, taking in your perfume as I then kiss my way up your neck to your ear…”. Given a little time to think about those words, those senses…most women will look forward to that moment- and start the imagination going as to what you will do next.